Paying attention to yourself can mean you stick to your guns in an argument, or you screw your courage to the sticking place (to borrow from one of my favorite writers) and ask for the schedule change at work you've been wishing you could have. Paying attention to yourself might mean saying "no" politely, as well as indulging in a treat. Paying attention to yourself is about finding ways to validate your own emotions - both positive and negative - for yourself. According to the Angels, an important aspect of detoxification doesn't mean getting rid of negative feelings or thoughts. It's about acknowledging those emotions, and paying attention to them, rather than repressing or denying them.
The Angels urge us all to pay attention to ourselves every day, even if only for a minute or two. The Angels urge us to recognize all states of our being without judgement. The Angels understand that for many of us, food becomes the means by which we express some of our deepest and most critical beliefs about ourselves.
For example, I had a friend who was so uncomfortable expressing her negative emotions - most especially anger - that the way she dealt with conflict was to simply shut whoever she had a conflict with out of her life. What was extremely interesting about this woman was that she denied herself all red meat, dairy, wheat gluten, soy, caffiene and alchohol. This was all without any medical or other alternative diagnosis of any kind of food allergies or any other condition that might indicate the need to embrace such an ascetic regimen. She didn't have any particularly spiritual or political reason either - she was neither vegan nor vegetarian, since she would eat poultry, fish and eggs, and found many vegan or vegetarian dishes unacceptable because of the inclusion of wheat or soy. The last I heard she was considering giving up eggs. According to the Angels, her food choices (or in her case, food eliminations) reflected her emotional state of denial. The way she treated food reflected how she treated people...and most importantly of all, how she treated HERSELF.
Taking time therefore, every day, to acknowledge what it is we might want or feel or need at any given point in time is an important step in accepting every aspect of ourselves - even those we might prefer not to acknowledge. The Angels see nothing negative about the emotions we often label negative - our emotions evolved to keep us alive. Fear, grief and anger are part of our human experience. The Angels urge us to begin to embrace these aspects of ourselves by paying attention the next time we feel afraid, angry or sad, not repressing or denying them.